20 April 2015

ugly / love your blog

This week's prompt from a playful day's April blog challenge is ... u g l y. Kate writes about jealousy that creeps up when we cruise blogs. Here are my thoughts for this week's contribution.

Blog envy. 
It happens - these 'perfect' blogs display larger, crisper, more beautiful images than we feel our own blogs show. The background wallpaper and layout of the blog has a Zen to it and you glide easily along its offerings. When you want a similar look, you tweak your own template and thus mess it up, spending way too long wondering how to get it back to the basic look you had initially! Or you grab a wallpaper and change things around to freshen up your blog's look only to last appealing until you click on a new blog that draws you in and is more appealing to look at, to read, to go back to.

Blog content envy.
Also happens. These blogs convey a wonderful look into a home that's cleaner, more decorated and far more 'together' than ours. Perhaps their crafts look better in some way than ours, their designs are more frequently published (and popular!) than we can crank out, their time is assumed more abundant than ours, and every one of their recipes prepared looks like the work of angels. Even the pictures of their children are always smiling, always CLEAN, and always happy. And please -- the clean shaven, always-bringing-you-breakfast-in-bed type husbands are in these pictures too. Really.

Blogging. Keeping it real.
My goal. I read a lot of blogs. Some make me feel inadequate. Some irritate me because I'm pretty sure their lives don't look like that 24/7 and they're trying to show that it does. And I'm not buying it. Some blogs inspire me and push the limit to a positive turnout. Some just take me back to Pinterest to waste more hours searching links and pinning things I'll never create or fix or do. The blog that grabs my attention most and keeps me coming back is the one that shares from the heart (and you can tell!) and whatever the type post it is, it connects with me. Pulls me in. Everyone is different and we all subscribe to different blog appeals but personally, I find keeping it real is honest. What you share can affect others one way or another and why not be positive. Be you. If a blog doesn't promote a good feeling, click out.

9 comments:

  1. LOL! Love this post! All of it is so true. As with any social media, where we don't SEE and TALK to people face to face, it's easy to be what we FEEL like being at the moment ~ not who we really are. That's why I like your podcasts. I think I'm visiting with the real you. :-)

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  2. All so true. And I like that "click out." That's just what I'm going to do next time I'm not feelin it. Thanks!

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  3. Amusing post and so true! I think its really important to be true to myself when blogging. After all its your home, your place to be about yourself and you shouldn't compare yourself to others because everyone is unique. X

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  4. "Click out" ... a big amen to that! I agree...the blogs that hit it with me are those that hit it in my heart. No life is perfect, we all have our days - on and off. I like to think I'm on more than off, but it may just be the other way around! And I needed this, as I just came from a blog that really made me angry! HA! :)

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  5. Oh, I love this. So true and very warmly and wittily written. I have just had a major clear out of blogs I follow. Many of those I unclicked from were firmly in the 'aspirational' category.

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  6. Thank you!! I had my blog site for a year before I posted for a lot of the reasons you mentioned.. I kept waiting to have time to write that perfect post. In reality, the posts I love most are the ones like you write - the ones that make me feel like we're having a cup of tea and chatting.

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  7. Ha - great post! I think it's important to remember that people only show you what they want to!

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  8. LOVE this post! It's so true. I always find myself drawn to blogs that are real, down-to-earth and "from the heart".

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  9. I only get a bit envious of blogs I read when I see how many comments they get! I'm fortunate if I even get one on mine! I get all excited still if someone comments - LOL! And I get a bit sad that the times of my life where I had tons of people to go and do things with - and weekends full of outings - are pretty much overwith for various reasons. I just don't always have enough to blog about! Now if I was doing a blog back in my 30's and 40's, I would have had tons - with tons of pictures! tee hee!

    Linda in VA

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